Why I Started My Blog

“Can I wear dresses all the time?”

There are quite a few new followers on both instagram and facebook.  I wanted to take a moment to thank you all for following my page and let you know why I started my blog.  It’s been quite the journey, and everyone’s support has meant the world!

My middle child, Hayden, started putting on dress up dresses around the age of three.  At first, dresses were only worn around the house.  Hayden would live in the play up dresses anytime we were home.  Whenever we left the house, Hayden would put on typical “boy” clothes.

Then the pandemic hit.  And Hayden wanted to wear dresses more and more.  Quickly, dress up dresses became the only wardrobe choice.  Hayden wore dresses every day, and eventually we pulled all of the “boy” clothes out of his closet.  The closet is now filled with girl shirts, dresses, skirts, sweatshirts, sweaters, jackets, etc.  

I started sharing our family’s experiences with Hayden, how family and friends reacted, and how strangers reacted because I wanted people to see that there is nothing wrong with a boy in a dress.  Hayden also was starting kindergarten and dresses would be the outfit of choice for school.  

Society is full of gender stereotypes and it is our job to challenge these stereotypes.  A boy can play with a doll.  A girl can play with a truck.  If a boy loves Elsa, then he can wear an Elsa dress.  If a girl loves Iron Man then she can wear an Iron Man costume.  Clothes and toys are for everyone.  Nail polish is for everyone.  Long hair is for everyone.  

I never wanted Hayden to feel bad about about what he loves and enjoys.  I wanted to share our journey and encourage people to embrace themselves.  Be who you are.  Don’t change yourself because society deems it wrong.  Always be you!

On our journey we have learned a lot about the LGBTQ community, we have met people who support our family, and our child has always been able to be their true selves.  We have lost some friends along the way, but the friendships we have maintained are stronger because of it.  

Hayden has recently started telling us that he feels like a girl inside.  So our journey may be going in a bit of a different direction, and that’s okay.  Because all I want is for my child to be their true selves.  And when Hayden is ready for a pronoun change, we will do that.  Because Hayden should never have to live life not being his true self.  

So welcome new followers!  And thank you to those who have been on this journey with us from the beginning!  I look forward to continuing this journey together!  Because your continued support is what keeps me going on the days where we run across those that are not supportive of our lifestyle.